“We are constantly invited to be who we are.” —Henry David Thoreau
Have you ever noticed when you really connect with someone what a good feeling it is? That feeling is our natural response to authenticity. Authenticity trumps just about everything when it comes to connecting with others, building relationships, and feeling good about yourself.
But here’s the thing — sometimes it takes real courage to tap into your authentic (a.k.a. true) self. It may sound easy, but you’d be surprised at how often people feel they need to act the way they think others want them to.
When I was studying Spiritual Psychology, I learned that being our “authentic selves” meant “tapping into the unconditional love within each of us.” When we do this, not only are we being true to ourselves, we also see others and the world from a loving place. Of course, that doesn’t mean everything is perfect, it just means we all can access our authentic selves and bring love to our lives, to others, and to our work.
Whether or not that resonates, you’ve undoubtedly experienced your own authenticity, and seen authenticity in others. And the more consciously you do it, the more you’ll find it serves you in all ways, especially in connecting with others. The trick lies in learning to be comfortable just being who you are.
Today we’re exploring some quick tips on doing just that.
Stand in Your Truth
I’ve found that authenticity requires being honest with yourself in a loving way. It’s not about judging yourself, but about seeing yourself beyond any judgements.
Authenticity requires standing in your truth, being transparent, and feeling okay with others seeing you for who you are. The scary part is that this means making yourself a bit vulnerable at first, but you’ll find that it gets easier as you go. The best part is, it’s so much more natural than pretending to be something you aren’t.
In business, others sense when you’re being authentic and not BS-ing them. They respond accordingly, and more often than not, the results you’re looking for happen simply because it’s easy to get to the heart of what you want to communicate. And in the end, authenticity exudes honesty and trustworthiness. And everybody wants to do business with people they can trust.
Trust Your Voice
Being authentic means trusting your voice, knowing you can express yourself and feel confident in what you want to get across.
It’s not that what others think doesn’t matter, it’s more that you’re fine with it, regardless. In fact, authenticity means being open to other points of view, and genuinely caring about what others have to say, whether you agree with them or not.
Being less attached to what others think allows you to stay present and in the moment. When you listen carefully to others and feel comfortable sharing your own thoughts openly, forging genuine connections feels effortless.
Let Go of Limiting Beliefs
Authenticity at its core makes you feel good. When you’re being true to yourself, you’re connecting to the love within. Throughout our lives, many of us learn to believe things about ourselves which not only are not true, but which become obstacles to our own potential. Authenticity demands that you step beyond those limiting beliefs so your true self can shine through.
And although it may feel hard at times, you’ll find that we all have a natural inclination to live as our authentic selves.
The result is deeper connection. Conversations become more meaningful, whether business related or not. It’s about what you convey behind your words. The connection comes from being authentic and not worrying about how others will receive what you’re sharing. People feel it, and it supports them in hearing you and in being authentic themselves.
We all have it within us. It’s just a matter of deepening the connection to yourself and sharing that connection with others.