“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” —Buddha
For a lot of us, the holidays are a busy time of year. If you’re in retail, it can be downright crazy. Or, maybe it’s year-end with financials and a budget due. Employees want time off, and even if you don’t wind up short-staffed, the nature of the holidays can still create stress and throw you off-center.
Whether you love every bit of it, or try to avoid anything remotely holiday like, this time of year—with social obligations and retail hype—can feel challenging. However you relate to the holiday season, when something goes awry during this time of year, it always feels even easier to get derailed.
So in this post, we’re giving you three tips to support you in moving through whatever comes up—good or bad. These three things will keep you centered and mindful. They may not seem like much at first glance, but trust me they work wonders. And best of all, they’re more about how you are with yourself than anything you have to actively do. Let’s dive in.
Stay Centered Tip #1: Check In With Yourself
So the truth is that things don’t always go as planned. (Huge shock, I know.)
For example, just this last week I was working on a project that involved many moving pieces. I thought everything was in place, but there were several glitches. Naturally, this created a lot of frustration and delays. And while this was all going down, my anxiety level went up. I could feel my mind racing ahead, detailing all the possible repercussions, and none of them were good.
Then I noticed that my thoughts were running all the worse case scenarios I could imagine. I realized that although the problem existed, buying into my thoughts as though they were real wasn’t helping. More to the point, my thoughts were escalating how I felt—in other words, making a bad situation worse.
And who needs that?
So, here’s the key. No matter what’s happening, our thoughts create the experience we have. Just this awareness alone goes a long way. So check in with yourself.
It may not change anything on the outside, but it could very well change how you feel on the inside.
Pausing and taking a big breath, and letting the thoughts come and go rather than engaging with them, is often enough to change course. From there, it’s much easier to be proactive — for example by regrouping and creating a new plan for what needs to happen.
Stay Centered Tip #2: Nurture Your Self
This is a big one. The most important piece is knowing what nurturing yourself means to you—and acting on it.
For me, it’s sharing a good meal with family or friends. Or sometimes it’s simply getting good sleep, or taking a walk on the beach.
Taking care of ourselves can shift how we feel. That way, if something goes wonky, it’s easier to tap into our inner wisdom. You may say, “There isn’t enough time,” but if you decide it’s important, you’ll find that the time is there.
It’s not so much about the amount of time you take, as it is about acknowledging yourself. This alone will make all the difference in how you feel. And you’ll find that in spite of how busy you are, the time will adjust, and what needs to get done, will.
Stay Centered Tip #3: Bring Love Into It
The last thing is to remember to tap into the love within. When you do that, it supports everything else falling into place.
You might ask, “What does that mean exactly?” Each of has an unlimited supply of love within us. One way to tap into the love within is by nurturing yourself and noticing what makes you happy.
Another way is doing something for someone else. When we give, we feel love.
Spend some time with a baby, if you have one in your life. It’s hard not to feel the love around little ones.
Regardless of how you feel about the holidays (and how busy you are as a result), the love within you is your greatest resource for seeing you through all of the joys—and demands—of the holidays.
If you practice these three things, you’ll feel centered, easily navigating through the holidays and all that they bring.
We’d love to hear what you do to feel centered during the holiday.