“Every waking moment we talk to ourselves about the things we experience. Our self-talk, the thoughts we communicate to ourselves, in turn control the way we feel and act.”
But what is self-talk, anyway?
Put bluntly, it’s your mental chatter. That resident voice we all have in our heads, commenting on our life as it unfolds day-to-day.
Its tone can be encouraging, telling you what a fantastic job you did closing that deal. The next moment it can be intensely critical, passing judgment on everything from your business sense to your wardrobe.
And believe it or not, when it gets nasty, your self-talk can have negative consequences for your business.
What Does Your Self-Talk Sound Like?
If you’ve never paid much attention to your self-talk, I strongly recommend doing some eavesdropping.
You’ll be amazed at what you hear.
When I started consciously listening in on my own self-talk, a good deal of the time it sound like the nasty stepsisters berating Cinderella.
I realized my business interactions would reach a whole new level if I could consciously relate to myself in a more positive way.
Because when you’re coming from a place of positivity and love, that’s what your business interactions will reflect. And when you’re coming from negativity, the opposite is true.
But creating that positive space meant changing the way I dealt with my inner critic.
Dealing with the Voice in Your Head
The standard advice for dealing with negative self-talk is to replace it with positive self-talk.
“Just switch out your negative phrases for positive ones,” the common advice goes, “and practice talking to yourself in uplifting, affirmative language instead.”
Sounds easy, right?
But in reality, simply substituting one phrase for another won’t change how you feel inside.
You have to actually interact with that negative voice differently altogether.
By hitting the Pause Button.
Whenever I noticed that I was being judgmental toward myself, I simply:
- Acknowledged it
- Didn’t engage with it
- Let it go
It kinda feels like hitting “Pause” in the middle of a video. But believe it or not, this simple system makes a huge difference.
Gradually, I stopped engaging with the critical chatter and began cultivating positive thoughts instead. My self-confidence improved, and my clients and co-workers responded differently to my new positivity.
Change You Can Feel
Developing a conscious practice of positive self-talk creates a subtle change in your energy that everyone around you can feel.
When I shifted my own unconscious chatter into conscious positive self-talk, I became more productive in my business life. Even better, my relationships—both inside and outside my business—improved immeasurably.
I may not always be able to turn pumpkins into coaches, but learning to nurture myself with positive self-talk served as a magic wand for positive changes.
And it will for you, too.
What does your inner critic say to you? Let us know in the comments.